The worst advice consistently came from people with more privileges than I have because they don’t have to deal with the challenges I face. Those roadblocks don’t exist for them so they don’t know what they haven’t had to face and they don’t realize how their advice might conflict. They didn’t realize they harmed me because I encounter dangers in those situations that they do not understand. None of us know everything about how other people are treated if we don’t LOOK to understand how their reality is different from ours.

Being a minority of minorities has been a burden that forced me to grow stronger. I had the chance because I had enough privilege to survive to thrive. We cannot survive this journey alone. I would be dead if my family didn’t take me in after I was homeless and trafficked as a disabled person. I hope to share enough so you can reduce your suffering and maybe not even end up that deep in the fog of trauma.

Once I was damaged by abuses like rape and other assaults I was damaged. I cannot control that people will try to damage me, but I can master myself and how I react to them attempting to damage me. I can be prepared for the spectrum of humanity and who I should be angry at and who I should share all my love with openly. If I see the truth my discernment gets better. The more I learn the better those choices get.

You can Heal Faster and Deeper if you face the truth faster and deeper. This requires growing emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical strength to face the hard truths in life. I was too weak to handle the truth and denied reality until I was homeless, trafficked, and fell in love with dangerous people. By Starting from a Partial Reality I Guaranteed I Could Not Fully Heal. When I Faced the Full Truth of What I was denying I was able to flourish.

The Process of Post Traumatic Growth is EXTREMELY Messy, I was Delusional to think I could look perfect at healing from so many severe traumas. Attainable Perfection is Working to be the Best I Can Be Today by mastering myself, maintaining my Health with hygiene, using What I Have Access to uplift My Environment, and setting healthier boundaries.

Because of what I healed I can share how to do what I am capable of doing to build the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical muscles that keep my pillars strong. I can show you how to start building stronger pillars of self-transcendence by showing you how I and others heal the damage done to those pillars. This means you can feel what it is like to be “healed.”

If You are Here You have most likely experienced being near a bomb of emotional, mental, spiritual and physical spectrums of abuse that radiate outwards harming everyone nearby in any dimension including the internet. Or maybe you love someone who has and you want to learn more about how to support them.

I Am sooo Sorry that You are Likely Suffering from the Damage of Trauma to all dimensions of your soul, that shit is painful! I am sorry to report, I Cannot Help You Go Back in Time or Magically Make that Damage Disappear with a Potion or Pill…

But I can teach you what I tried that actually Helped me to Grow Stronger and Wiser and More Resilient than before through Post-Traumatic Growth which is different ways of processing different types of damage. I and others have been Learning how to Heal in ways that leave Us Stronger, Wiser and More Resilient than before the events that we thought destroyed us.

For the Past few years I took a break from the internet to Work on Growing Strong Enough to be the Hero I wish I had when I was lost. I wanted to be so stronger so I could be More Honest with myself and others in a Way that I Wish People had been with Me and see what I can create from a more Evolved Mindset.

I always want to improve for the health of all I impact. Looking back I see that the best advice came from people who turned out to be more honest with themselves and others. When people lie to themselves they cannot give Healthy advice to themselves or others. They need help understanding how to be healthier. Until I dedicated myself to humbly heal I was lost in trauma bonds.

However, this only lasts as long as you are Safe. The moment we are abused emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically those pillars are damaged again. The healing process must begin again to heal. This is why we must protect ourselves from abuse by setting boundaries that keep us protected from people that damage our pillars of transcendence.

This way we can stay strong and connected to the dimension of self-transcendence where we are at our best with ease. I spend more time being my best when I swiftly face the truth of what is happening, protect myself, and heal what was damaged. The faster I protect myself, heal and evolve the more time I spend being my best. The slower I heal the more I suffer in a lot of excruciating neurological pain worse than death.

I found it is superior to work on healing and evolving than it was pretending to do the work and being a fake version of perfect as I try to distract or kill myself at night.

-J